Grey’s Anatomy Wisdom

“Never leave until tomorrow that which you can do today.” – Benjamin Franklin

Grey’s Anatomy. You’ve likely heard of or are an avid follower of this Seattle-based TV medical drama now in its 14th season. Several million viewers tune in weekly for each episode. Millions more binge-watch past episodes on Netflix. And it’s one of the most successful TV dramas ever.

Susan and I enjoy watching this series, but there are two parts of each episode that I enjoy the most … the beginning and ending. This is when the main character, Meredith Grey, shares some lightly philosophical views of the world from her point of view.

For instance, one episode started with this observation:

“I don’t know why we put things off but, if I had to guess, I’d say it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of rejection. Sometimes we fear simply making a decision because, what if you’re wrong, what if you’re making a mistake you can’t undo?”

In our last blog post, titled The Cowardly Lion, we addressed this issue of fear and courage but, the more I research this idea of fear keeping us from becoming all we are meant to be, the more I realize it deserves more than a single blog post. In particular I think it is worth taking the time to consider the implications of how fear keeps us from making decisions that could be great for us.

Do you think this is accurate? Do you think fear actually keeps us from doing things … even things that could turn out great? Take a minute here. Think back over your life. When has fear kept you from making a decision to do something you either needed or wanted to do? For some of us, we may not have to go back much further than a week or so.

Now … think through that decision. What was at the root of that fear? Do you wish now that you had moved forward? Is it too late to reconsider? Should you?

I believe we all desire to experience life as fully as we can and yet we allow fear to keep us from much of it. The more I speak with and coach folks, the more convinced I am that fear is at an epidemic level. This isn’t based on any qualitative research I’ve conducted but rather on the real-life realities I see and hear all around me. I bet you see it too.

What can we do about it? We can start with ourselves. We often have 20/20 vision when we look into a friend’s life and “clearly” see that they are letting fear hold them back. Yet, the mirror seems a bit foggy when we look at our own situations.

Take some serious time … just you and a journal … and look forward at opportunities you are now considering or are about to. How might fear be driving any of those decisions? Then consider how Meredith Grey ends the same episode quoted above:

“Even the biggest failure, even the worst, most intractable mistake beats the hell out of never trying.”

Move beyond fear this year. Start living life the way it was intended for you to live it.

 

Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob Karcher

Author | Speaker | Coach

www.WhoAreTheJonesesAnyway.com

 

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The Cowardly Lion

You’re right, I am a coward! I haven’t any courage at all. I even scare myself.” – The Cowardly Lion

You all remember the Cowardly Lion from The Wizard of Oz, right? He’s the one that said “I haven’t any courage at all” but, in the end, proved he had more than enough courage to face his biggest fears.

I believe what the Cowardly Lion actually suffered from was not a lack of courage, but fear. And that fear held him back from becoming all that he was meant to be, but only until he stopped letting fear keep him from being the courageous lion he was born to be.

Have you ever let fear hold you back and keep you from becoming all that you were meant to be? Are there areas of your life where you wish you would move forward but feel like you can’t because you fear doing so?

Fear can be a good thing. It’s meant to warn us of situations in our lives where we need to be extra cautious. But fear can also create such a grip on us that we freeze in place and never find the courage to move forward, be bold, and fully experience life.

Some have a fear of roller coasters or driving on freeways. These aren’t the types of fears I’m thinking about. For some these are very real fears that don’t necessarily keep them from fully living their lives. But there are fears that do keep us so bottled up that we won’t step out into new horizons where we can thrive.

Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of saying “yes.” Fear of saying “I’m sorry” or granting forgiveness. Fear of admitting wrongdoing. Fear of being rejected. Fear of loving or being loved. Fear of doing something God has called you to do. These and others are the fears I think really hold us back.

I’ve been a victim of fear … more times than I like to admit. It’s a trap that’s easy to fall into. One of my greatest fears in life has always been a fear of failure. I have been so focused on success that failing, at anything, was not an option. This fear has kept me from what likely could have been some amazing times in my life.

One of those times was when Susan and I were called to write Who Are the Joneses Anyway? The entire idea of writing a book, speaking on stage, and sharing the craziest parts of our lives with the public was enough to make me sick. And then there was the fear of failure! I mean, who would care about a book from unknown authors? I didn’t know anything about book publishing! I was totally out of my league. I could hear everyone laughing at me if we failed.

Luckily, I decided enough was enough! I wasn’t going to let fear hold me back from what God had designed me to do. There came a point when I simply had to say “enough!” … I’m not going to let fear of failure keep me from fully experiencing all that God had planned for me … not anymore.

This was a very real “ah-ha” type of life-changing moment for me. I summoned the courage to move beyond fear. And I’m glad I did. Our book has seen success and, better yet, it is changing lives for the better. That is something to be excited about.

Dictionary.com defines courage as “the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear.” It’s also “having the courage of one’s convictions, to act in accordance with one’s beliefs, especially in spite of criticism.”

You see, courage is not the absence of fear; it’s facing your fear head on, not letting it hold you back, and moving forward confidently in spite of it.

Are there any big decisions or dreams you are considering but you think you can’t move forward? What are they? Is fear holding you back? Aren’t your dreams worth a shot? Doesn’t the world deserve all of you?

Why not be like the Cowardly Lion, summon your courage from deep down, and, despite potential criticism, move beyond your fears? Isn’t it about time?

Make 2018 your year! Start expecting greater things than you ever imagined.

 

Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob Karcher

Author | Speaker | Coach

http://whoarethejonesesanyway.com/

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Our Five E’s

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined.” – Thoreau

Happy 2018! This is going to be an amazing year, don’t you think?

What was that? Was that even a little hesitation after that question? Is there a hint of indecision that this will be an amazing year? If so, what is causing you to question rather than confidently declare “yes, this will be an amazing year!”?

We have been working with others for years in our coaching practice, helping them move towards living the lives filled with passion and purpose that they were created for. Do you know what one of the most common explanations is for why so many of us don’t start a new year with confidence? Lack of a plan. Too many of us are simply existing rather than thriving year after year. Much of this is because we don’t take the time to reflect on where we are and where we want to be 365 days from now … and then put a plan in place to get there. The start of a new year is a great time to do this.

As coaches, we believe we have to walk our talk because we believe we cannot lead others where we have not been ourselves. So we thought we’d share our goals for 2018 with you to give you a sneak peek at the areas we are going to focus on this year. Because we like making goals easy to remember, we call these our “Five E’s.” Maybe these will give you a starting point for planning your year.

Expect: We’re looking ahead confidently into a year of great things. We can’t express how important it is to plan with great expectation because what we plan, we will accomplish. We wrote about this in our last blog post. If you missed that, you can click here to read it now.

Engage: We intend to become more directly involved in the people, movements, and interests that we feel most called to participate with. For us, these include our family, our church community, Who Are the Joneses Anyway?, and ministry movements we are called to. We have specific strategies on how we intend to deepen our commitment in each of these areas.

Educate: This always starts with educating ourselves in areas where we feel we need to go deeper. This includes taking courses, attending conferences, reading, and more. We also hope to make a difference with others by helping them become more aware and knowledgeable of areas in their lives where they feel they need to grow.

Encourage: We will encourage our readers, clients, and others to move from where they are to where they want to be, in all areas of their lives. We will continue to do this through our writing, coaching, mentoring, and a few other digital avenues we are exploring.

Execute: Someone once said “a solid plan followed by good communication and effective execution will always equal success.” This absolutely works but remember, this means there has to be a solid plan to start with and we have to be willing to make course corrections along the way.

Our plan includes more detail within each of these Five E’s but, in an effort to keep this brief, we won’t go into all of that here. If you want more detail, just send us a note. We’ll be happy to help you develop your own plan for 2018.

What do you want to accomplish in 2018? Do you have a solid plan that ensures your success? If not, we encourage you to put one in place. Your success just might depend on it.

It’s up to you. You can make 2018 your year. You can do this! You need to do this! You know you do!

Move beyond hope in 2018 and start expecting greater things than you ever imagined.

Drop us a note if we can help.

 

Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob and Susan Karcher

Authors | Speakers | Coaches

www.WhoAreTheJonesesAnyway.com

 

 

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