A Four-Legged Stool:What Are You Living For?

“Every decision you make, makes you. Never let other people choose who you’re going to be.” – Cassandra Clare

We have talked with too many people in their later years that, when looking back over their lives, are startled with just how unfulfilling and pointless their lives have been. Oh, they may have worked hard, made it to the top of their organizations, and are revered in their social circles. Still, there is little contentment.

As they put everything they had into attaining worldly success, they look back now to see that the world didn’t provide what they were looking for … things like true love, joy, deep friendships, and the knowledge that they did it “right”.

When your days on earth are over, will you discover that you wasted your life on meaningless things that have no lasting or eternal value? If you died tomorrow, what would others say?

The Third Leg: What Are You Living For?

In our last couple of posts we’ve been busy building a four-legged stool. The first leg of this stool was added by answering the question “Who are you?”. The second leg asked the question “Why are you here?”. Now it’s time to add a little stability to your four-legged stool by answering this question: “What are you living for?”

You see. You might know who you are and even why you are here. But, then you have a decision to make. You can choose to live according to your life’s purpose … or run from it. We have seen people do both and we can say, without any hesitation, that those who followed a life based on who they are and why they are here lived lives of much greater joy, impact, and balance than those that did not.

One of the most influential people during the transition from our days of keeping up with the Joneses to where we are today was Dr. Gary Miller, then provost and senior vice president at Biola University, where Bob earned a degree in organizational leadership.

During a graduation-day luncheon, Dr. Miller was the keynote speaker, and he had the foresight to ask the group some tough questions. His questions, roughly paraphrased, went something like this: “What will you do with all that God has given you—your life, career, experiences, and now, this new degree? Will you seek the things of this world: money, status, position, power, and fame? Or will you seek the things of the Kingdom? Will you seek to use what God has given you to live out His purpose, serve others, and make a difference in the world?”

Ouch! Hard-hitting questions, but we knew our answers immediately. We chose the latter. We admit we had absolutely no idea then what that meant or how we were going to live out our answers, but it was exactly the right questions at the right time. It pierced our hearts and sent us on a long quest to discover who we were, why we were here, and what we were living for. Bob Buford, Halftime Institute founder and bestselling author of Halftime, relates in his book how he came to his decision on what he was living for. In his book, Bob Buford recounts being challenged with a similar question. The question he was asked is, “What’s in your box?” This box could contain the one thing, and only one thing, that at its core would define what his life would stand for.

Buford was a very successful businessman and could easily have chosen from a long list of goals and accomplishments to put into this box that would define his life. What did he choose? Jesus! Jesus was the one thing in Buford’s life that rose above all others. Jesus was a nonnegotiable aspect of his life that was more important to him than anything else.

What are you living for? There are multiple ways we could ask you this question. The particular phrasing of the question isn’t important—but your answer is! Take as much time as you need to fully consider this question and the real implications it has for living a life focused on those things that matter most to you. It is that important. Your response just might surprise you.

Stay tuned for our next post when we will cover the final leg of this four-legged stool.


Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob and Susan Karcher

Authors-Speakers- Coaches



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A Four-Legged Stool: Why Are You Here?

“It isn’t about what you do; it’s about why you were created!”

Do you wonder why you are here and what you should do with your life?

Everyone eventually searches for real meaning in their lives. Without meaning, we are left simply drifting along like a ship on a windy ocean with no rudder. In our work we have never personally met anyone who was born knowing the reason why they are here. It’s a question we all ask and yet the answers are as varied and as unique to you as your DNA.

We search because the reason for our existence is not easily found and requires quite a bit of introspection. The good news is your answer is out there for you to find … if you know where to look.

In our last post (click here if you missed it) we introduced the first question (leg) in our four-legged stool concept: “Who are you?” Today we ask the second question. Remember, these questions aren’t special – it’s your answers that are! Like before, today’s question requires contemplation and honest self-evaluation. Take the necessary time to thoughtfully consider your answer.

The Second Leg: Why Are You Here?

Your stool’s second leg is constructed by figuring out the answer to the question “Why are you here?” Some refer to this as their calling, mission, or purpose. The specific label isn’t necessarily important, but resolving the question is.

Too often, we default on this answer and go for something obvious, convenient, or generic. If your answer is your job, you have more digging to do. Our professional roles do not define who we are in this world. It isn’t about what you do; it’s about why you were created!

There is a defining scene from the movie City Slickers, starring Billy Crystal and Jack Palance that captures how personal and frustrating seeking an answer to this question can be. In the film, Mitch Robbins (Crystal) struggles to discover the secret to life. Curly (Palance) asks Mitch, “Do you know what the secret to life is?” Mitch says, “No, what?” to which Curly responds by holding up one finger and saying, “This.” Mitch is clearly confused. Curly looks at his finger and says, “One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and everything else don’t mean s***.” Mitch presses Curly for what this mysterious “one thing” is. Curly then says, his eyes sparkling, “That’s what you’ve got to figure out.”

We might often feel like Mitch—we just need someone else to tell us what our “one thing” is. The problem is that it’s different for each of us. We can’t tell you what your one thing is. No one can … no one but you that is. While seeking input from others can be helpful, only you can make this decision for you.

So how do you do it? For some it seems obvious; for others, it requires the hard work of sorting through options until you uncover your one thing. It can be the work of a lifetime.

Perhaps the things you are most passionate about are a clue. What do you care most about? Bill Hybels, in his book Holy Discontent, describes our passions as those things that make us really angry, that we truly love, or that make us want to do something now. He calls these our areas of “holy discontent.”

Another great way to think about this is to consider those things in life that are most important to you. We call those your “non-negotiables”. What is irreplaceable to you? What things would you never consider changing? Basically, when your life is added up some day, what things do you most want to be remembered for?

Are you struggling? Seek help from your family, friends, and others you trust. And a good life coach will have the tools and resources available to help guide you through this question until you get to an answer.

For us, discovering the “why” leg of our four-legged stools took time spent in exploration and discovery. It was not quick or easy. It was, however, absolutely worth pursuing until we had our answers. We encourage you to go the distance and stay engaged until you discover why you are here.

Discovering your one big thing, or your calling, always starts with you—how you are uniquely shaped and how best to interact with the world and people around you.

Stay tuned for our next post when we will cover the third leg of this four-legged stool.


Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob and Susan Karcher




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A Four-Legged Stool: Who Am I?

“Our souls are not hungry for fame, comfort, wealth, or power. Our souls are hungry for meaning, for the sense that we have figured out how to live so that our lives matter.” —Rabbi Harold Samuel Kushner

For us, moving from a life revolving around materialism and performance-based satisfaction to an intentional, authentic life focused on things that really mattered was not always an easy journey. We discovered we needed to be intentional about making decisions and to put a plan in place to move from where we were to where we really wanted to be. This reality will be true for you as well if you are seeking a similar life transition.

It isn’t enough to decide that you have been focusing on the wrong things and expect change to happen automatically. You can’t just identify what is wrong; you have to do something about it. It starts with reimagining what a successful life looks like for you. You must decide what your life goals and priorities are.

Decide who you want to be, what’s most important to you, and how you want to spend the rest of the one life you have been given. This is key to moving forward and embracing a new life.

As a professional life coach, Bob often leads new clients through a series of four strategic questions. We will cover the first of those questions today. The remaining three will be covered in the next few weeks.

We refer to these four questions as life’s four-legged stool. There is nothing special about any of these questions – but your answers are! Your responses to these questions will be unique and special to your life and serve as a solid foundation upon which you can sit confidently.

Each question will require contemplation and honest self-evaluation. That is the reason for not covering all four in one post – we encourage you to take time to prayerfully consider each. Change requires hard work and should be well-thought-out.

The First Leg: Who Are You?

If you don’t know who you are, you will grasp whatever is easiest and within reach. So many grasp for the life of the Joneses—trying to discover identity and purpose through performance, comparisons, and competition.

We too often try answering this question in terms of what we are or what we have. “I’m an accountant, a plumber, an attorney, a teacher, a nurse, a broker,” we might say. Or maybe we mention the company we work for, the neighborhood we live in, the floor we work on, or even the type of car we drive. But this is a flawed approach to stating who we are.

Thomas Merton comments on this question in his work New Seeds of Contemplation: “There is only one problem on which all my existence, my peace, and my happiness depend: to discover myself in discovering God. If I find Him, I will find myself, and, if I find my true self, I will find Him.”

The theme verse for our book Who Are the Joneses Anyway? says “It’s in Christ that we find out who we are…” (Ephesians 1:11 MSG)

Each of these quotes point in the same direction. They both state that when we find God we will discover who we are. This is where we discovered the starting point of our transition. Part of the process of figuring out your “who” is discovering how God uniquely wired you to be unlike any other person ever created. You have a distinctive DNA, your fingerprints are unlike anyone else’s, and no one else has eyes exactly the same as yours.

You also have a personality that is yours alone. There are many assessments available to better understand your unique “you.” Bob uses several of these when he works with clients, including Gallup’s StrengthsFinder and a favorite called Psycho-Geometrics.

Discovering who you are can be the toughest leg of your stool to figure out and there are many approaches you can take including these assessments, conversations with loved ones, journaling, discovering your passions, and more. Don’t rush this step—you will be glad you didn’t. Drop us a note if you have any questions or would simply like a little help learning how to get started discovering your “who”.

Stay tuned for our next post when we will cover the next leg of this four-legged stool.


Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob and Susan Karcher

Authors-Speakers- Coaches


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Giving = Love?

Giving = Love?


“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” – Mother Teresa


February has been called “the month of love”. I’m not sure about you but I’m not seeing a whole lot of “love” in the news lately. Our “me-first” culture often creates and sustains a perfect environment for the opposite of love – selfishness, indifference, and hate – to take root, like some kind of virus we can’t find a cure for.

We propose one solution: generosity. Generosity is the best antidote we know of for treating selfishness and indifference. Generosity is not simply giving money away as some may suppose – it’s much more than that.

A simple way to describe generosity is showing kindness toward others. But what does this look like? It means giving of ourselves, all that we are and have, for the benefit of others. We can be generous toward others in the smallest of ways, and in doing so begin to detox our culture of its greatest ills. This is because it is literally impossible to be truly generous and selfish at the same time.

While leading a life of generosity seems like a no-brainer, many of us struggle with how to do this. You may even think you don’t have anything to offer or that your little gestures wouldn’t make much of a difference when compared to the enormity of the problems this world faces. Or maybe you fear that by giving too freely you would have less. On the contrary, the opposite is true.


When you live a life of generosity a fuller, richer life awaits you.


Let’s see how this works. We can probably all agree that the teaching “it is more blessed to give than to receive” is true. But if you are like many folks we talk to, you may have some questions: “Where do I start? What do I give? How do I give?”

The answers start with looking at what is right in front of you. We never have to go very far to see needs all around us. What’s right in front of you today? Take a look around; people are in need everywhere. Consider how you can make a difference starting today, doing what you can, when you can, with what you have.

There are countless ways for generosity to take hold in your life. Even small efforts like ridding our lives of clutter and giving our excess to others can make a big difference. Perhaps for you giving can start by simply clearing out a closet of old clothes you haven’t worn in a while and giving them to someone who needs them.

Be intentional in finding little ways to bless others every day, like holding the door open for others before rushing in yourself. Or carrying groceries to someone’s car. Or generously giving away compliments like they were free candy. This alone would make a nice contrast from the complaints and criticism so predominant in our culture today. Even a smile can be an amazing gift to someone who’s having a bad day. And the gift of listening can change a friend’s life.

Stop for a moment and consider what you can start doing to give more of yourself. You may think you don’t have much to give, but it doesn’t have to be your money or possessions. When you focus on who you are, why you are here, and what you want to do with your life, you will begin to find that you have a lot of something that people around you need: YOU, the authentic you.

If you give of yourself each day you can have an amazing impact on the world. Pursue what you are passionate about and commit to loving others. If we all committed to do this starting today, this February just might become the greatest month of love ever!

Where will you start being more generous in your world?

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Blessings and love to you all,
Bob and Susan Karcher




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Pop the Cork

Pop the Cork! Pour the bubbly! Launch the fireworks!

Why? Because Who Are the Joneses Anyway? is now an Amazon bestseller. Nearly 1,800 Kindle versions of our new book were downloaded in just one week – that’s a lot of new readers!

What a wonderful way to start the year — we can’t think of any group we would rather celebrate with than all of you. You are the ones that have supported and encouraged us since Day One. And you believed in this project even when we doubted … thank you for that.

We didn’t write today just to showcase the success of our first book. The real reason for this blog entry is to encourage you to live out the calling on your life. Don’t just dream it – live it! That’s what we’re doing now. We didn’t use to. If you have read our book, you know exactly what we mean.

The point is … we have discovered our life’s purpose and are living it out. You can to! We used to live for the world; constantly striving to become more, have more, and do more than anyone else. The world calls it “Keeping up with the Joneses”.

Our lives then were like running on a treadmill that kept going faster and faster … and it got harder and harder. But no matter how fast we ran, we weren’t really getting anywhere …we were still just running on life’s treadmill!

We needed a change and we knew it!

Then came what we now refer to as our “Joneses Moment”, a season when we started to ask ourselves “who are the Joneses anyway?”. The more we asked this question, the more we came face to face with the Joneses. As we did, we had to figure out why we were running so fast just to keep up with them. They really weren’t who we wanted to be anyway!

What changed for us since then? How did we move from “keeping up with the Joneses” to lives filled with passion and purpose … knowing who we are, why we are here, and doing something about it?

For us, we needed to start with a new perspective,, a new outlook. Think of it not so much as reframing – simply trying to make the old lives look new! No, we needed a beautiful new picture of what we wanted our lives to look like. We found it. Or, actually, we rediscovered it.

You see, we were taught how to live life better, we just let the weeds of this world and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the real life out of us. Luckily it was temporary.

For us, we found our new perspective in the Bible. It was here we uncovered that who we are does not depend on how well we do in the world; our true identities and reason for living are only found in Christ (Ephesians 1:11 MSG [paraphrased]).

We had been running on life’s treadmill so fast, doing the best we could. We came to identify ourselves by our jobs and what we accumulated; we just thought that was how it worked. But now we know we had it backward. Our identity in Christ comes first – our role in the world and everything else flows from Him.

This changed everything for us and it can for you too.

If your life feels like you are running on a treadmill that keeps going faster and faster but isn’t getting you anywhere, perhaps it’s time for some new life perspective for you too. Look, we aren’t evangelists … we’ve just had such a dramatic redirection in our lives from simply existing to really living that we want to tell folks how we got there.

That’s what our book Who Are the Joneses Anyway? is all about … helping you discover who you are and why you are here so you too can live the intentional, authentic life filled with passion and purpose that you were created for.

If that is something you want but don’t have we encourage you to contact us. Don’t go another day without saying “enough!” You deserve the life you were made for, not the life the world pulls you into.

Thanks to each and every one of you for helping us spread our message and see our book reach bestseller status. If you haven’t seen our website lately, take a peek. Just click here and you’ll be taken there.


Praying for new beginnings in 2017,


Bob & Susan Karcher

Authors, Speakers, Coaches

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How the Grinch “Saved” Christmas


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“You can’t hurt Christmas, Mr. Mayor, because it isn’t about the gifts or the contest or the fancy lights … I don’t need anything more for Christmas than this right here: my family.”

Lou Lou Who in How the Grinch Stole Christmas movie (2000)

Wait, isn’t the title of the book and movie really How the Grinch “Stole” Christmas? Why, yes it is. But the way we see it, didn’t the Grinch actually “save” Christmas?

We all know this classic story by Dr. Seuss about the cranky, mean, old Grinch trying to steal Christmas from all the Whos in Whoville. He snuck in late one Christmas Eve and stole the wrapped presents and cheerful decorations that awaited opening by the Whos on Christmas morning.

Why would anyone want to do this? Well, the Grinch lacked any joy in his life and his heart, we are told, was a tiny, shriveled little thing incapable of feeling anything for anyone other than himself. He really didn’t want all the pretty packages he stole, but he sure didn’t want the Whos to have them either. He was trying to steal the source of their Christmas joy.

The mistake the Grinch made was assuming the Whos’ joy was tied to all of their possessions, their gifts. As the Whos awoke Christmas morning, they were astonished that all their gifts and decorations had been stolen. At first, they weren’t too happy.

Can you imagine? How would we respond if robbers broke into our homes and stole our gifts and decorations just hours before we awoke? We would be looking to rip open all the gifts we’ve received … but there wouldn’t be any. All of the work. All of the money. All of the surprises. Gone!

Luckily, Lou Lou Who arrives on the scene and makes this declaration: “I’m glad he took our presents. You can’t hurt Christmas, Mr. Mayor, because it isn’t about the gifts or the contest or the fancy lights … I don’t need anything more for Christmas than this right here: my family.”

Immediately Mr. Mayor, and all the Whos in Whoville, knew Lou Lou was right. They had been focused too much on the wrong things … competing with their neighbors for the most decorated home, the biggest gifts, and more. But after Lou Lou’s declaration, all the Whos began to celebrate Christmas, without the presents or decorations.

The Grinch was confused. Of course, we know he later learned that the key to the Whos’ Christmas joy wasn’t based on stuff—it was based on giving. And when they didn’t have presents to give anymore, they gave of what they had: themselves.

This was so moving that it changed the Grinch forever and his heart grew three sizes. The same person who wanted to silence others’ joy was now transformed into a joyous, generous giver himself.

You see, if it hadn’t been for the Grinch, all of Whoville just might be stuck to this day in their “Keeping up with the Joneses (or Whos)” lifestyles. And the Grinch himself would likely still be cranky and mean.

So, that’s how the Grinch “saved” Christmas … at least for Whoville.

What about your town? Your home? Your family? What is your focus this season?

This Christmas, may we allow our own hearts to be challenged. And, if we are lucky, our hearts too will grow three sizes, refocusing us once again on the true reason for this season called Christmas.

Wishing you a blessed season of holidays,

Bob and Susan Karcher

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what’s your perspective?


Welcome to fall 2016!

This time of year represents the end of summer vacations, a return to cooler temperatures and, if you reside in Southern California as we do, a hope for rain! With the arrival of fall we also find ourselves at the starting gates of a series of events and holidays … back to school, falling leaves, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, New Years, and more. And this year, we have the added thrill of wading through what has to be one of the oddest presidential campaign seasons ever!

For some this time of year represents joy, happiness, family, and celebrations. Some find these months the most stressful of the year. Still others find themselves trapped between each of these experiences. What about you? What’s your perspective on this?

Whatever your perspective is, it is easy to find ourselves falling for and trapped in the midst of a marketing blitz aimed at making us strive for perfect holidays filled with perfect foods and piles of perfect presents. And in the midst of the frenzy, we see just how prevalent Keeping up with the Joneses is in our culture.

With our last post, we introduced a bit of the 103 year old history of the phrase Keeping up with the Joneses and how this term started in 1913 whena new comic strip of this name was first introduced to us. This now infamous phrase has hung with us for over a century and represents the side effects of the American Dream that urges us to do things and buy things in order to impress other people.

We fell for this … thinking we could work, buy, and spend our way into the happiness that the American Dream represents. But we learned that happiness is not found in the American dream or any variety of holiday seasons. This was when we discovered a new perspective, a fresh viewpoint that allowed us to reframe what happiness is and how to find it.

For us, this new perspective comes from the Bible. It was here we uncovered that who we are does not depend on how well we do in the world or what gifts we give or receive in December; our true identities and reason for living can only be found in Christ (Ephesians 1:11 [paraphrased]).

Prior to our discovery we were running on life’s treadmill as fast as possible and doing the best we could. We came to identify ourselves by our jobs and what we accumulated; we just thought that was how it worked. But now we know we had it backward. Our identity in Christ comes first—our role in the world, and everything else, flows from Him.

This changed everything for us and it was so significant we wrote a book about it called Who Are the Joneses Anyway? We now dedicate our lives to helping others discover who they are and why they are here so they can lead the intentional, authentic lives they were created for. Not just any old lives … but lives filled with passion, purpose, and happiness.

We have experienced a complete transformation in our lives and have seen others experience the same. If you allow it, this will transform your life too.

What would happen if you weren’t worried so much about titles, possessions, status, holidays, and Keeping up with the Joneses? How would your life change if you focused on who you are, why you’re here, and the difference you want to make with your life?

Think of the possibilities if you started living your life more intentionally, doing more of the things that matter most—and less of everything else. Could life be less hectic? What if you could live more simply, yet more fully? And how could refocusing on the things you are really passionate about make each of these coming holidays the best you’ve ever experienced?

Thank you for reading along. Now it’s your turn. We’d love to hear your thoughts, your perspective, and your story. Simply add your comments below and if you would like to share more with us, let us know and we’ll spend some time with you. Oh, and please “share” this post with others … we’ve made it easy … just click on the social media icons.
We wish you all the most wonderful start to this fall season.

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what could be better than our stuff?

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At one time or another, most of us have used the expression “keeping up with the Joneses.” We’re talking about a legendary family that has the world trying to keep up with them. They’re mentioned in tweets, movies, newscasts, articles, blogs, books, and more.

They’re mysterious. They seem to be everywhere, but no one appears to have actually met them. Why is that?

McGinis vs. Jones

In 1913, Arthur “Pop” Momand highlighted the side effects of the American Dream that urges us to do things in order to impress other people and create a sense of social standing. His cartoon strip, Keeping Up with the Joneses, followed the McGinis family as they competed with their neighbors, the Joneses, in social status and the accumulation of material goods. Interestingly, in the twenty-six years the strip ran, the Joneses never actually appeared in the cartoon—a clever way for the author to show that the Joneses represented much more than just the McGinises’ next-door neighbors.

They were the pressure of society given a name, and though the strip was comical, it dealt with an issue that has plagued humanity throughout our existence. This was such a big problem in the early twentieth century that the phrase “keeping up with the Joneses” has endured in common usage for more than a hundred years.

Is this still an issue today?

While this phrase comes from a century-old idea, what it represents is a timeless part of our human existence. One of God’s “top ten” even deals with the temptation to want more—to want what others have. But in modern days, we have elevated this desire to an art form.

Since the McGinis and Jones families first showed up on the scene, everything has changed. And yet nothing has changed. In one way or another, we persistently fall into the trap of trying to keep up with our neighbors. We simply keep changing their names and adding a few digits to their income levels.

The comic strip Jones family isn’t around anymore, but we’ve traded those cartoon characters for newer, sexier, edgier, real-life models. From shows like Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous to Cribs to Keeping Up with the Kardashians, millions watch their favorite stars’ every move while trying to capture the latest styles and trends. The Rockefellers, the Carnegies, the Kennedys, and the Hiltons came before the Kardashians, and someone else will come after them. Regardless who grabs the headlines, the “Joneses” represent much more than a family—it’s a force.

In our first halves of life we had been compulsively chasing something without really knowing what it was. We weren’t pursuing a goal, a dream, or a passion. It was something more nebulous, easy to miss at first and we were seeking contentment in our titles, possessions, and successes. We had been focusing on what we were and what we attained. We now know that “what” is the wrong starting point.

We are just like many of you—ordinary, hardworking people who discovered ourselves trapped in a race we didn’t even realize we were in.

As we began sharing our stories, we realized we were not alone as others, in turn, shared their personal journeys with us. Many life stories later, we have heard how overspending, gambling, materialism, approval addiction, and many other things have been railroading individuals and families away from the lives they were meant to lead.

We’ve witnessed how low self-esteem and poor self-identity have trapped people into thinking they are not a good enough mom or dad, husband or wife, son or daughter—unless they could provide those special shoes, live in the right zip code, drive a certain car, or maintain a prestigious enough title. We’ve listened to story after story of fractured lives, struggling marriages, and hijacked dreams.

Many people have told us they are stressed and working too much, and their families hardly know them. They are never home, their marriages are difficult, and they are barely hanging on. Their lives are like running a marathon on a treadmill—they put in all the work but don’t get anywhere.

Others tell us they have it “all”—everything life has to offer. Yet, deep down, they know they were created for more and want their lives to count for something more meaningful and have greater impact than just a collection of titles and possessions.

Still others don’t have a clue who they are. They struggle each day searching for significance and acceptance. They try everything they can think of—social media, shopping, alcohol, drugs, new fashions, and more. No matter what they do, they can’t seem to find contentment in any of it.

Some have passionately shared that they “hate” their life. They might have everything we think we’re supposed to want: the home, the job, the cars, and all the toys. But they find themselves worn out from spending all of their time maintaining their possessions.

They have yet to learn that God is better than stuff.

This is exactly what God had shown us in our own lives—there was something better out there.

This is the same hope we now want to help others discover. Not everybody hates their lives, but how many of us are really happy? How many of us are enjoying our lives and spending more time loving, giving, and experiencing freedom, rather than the opposite? How many of us are really content? Is true contentment even possible?

What do YOU think? Add your comments below.

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Welcome to Upshot

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upshot: “The final or eventual outcome or conclusion of a discussion, action, or series of events.” – The Oxford English Dictionary

What’s your upshot? If you don’t know the answer to this question, a day is coming when you will want to. For some it comes earlier in life. For others, much later. Sometimes a difficult life-event forces this question upon us when we are least ready. Most of us will procrastinate on facing this question and seeking an answer for as long as possible … because the answer is not easy to find or because we are afraid of what we may see when we look in the mirror.

What is an upshot anyway? We are glad you asked. Let’s start with the official definition and take it from there. The Oxford English Dictionary defines upshot as “the final or eventual outcome or conclusion of a discussion, action, or series of events.” Huh? Let’s try this … you can shorten this definition to a single word such as outcome, result, aftereffect.

Now, consider the opening question again: What’s your upshot? You see, our lives can easily become nothing more than a series of actions or events and when yours all come to a stop, what will be your life’s outcome, result, or aftereffect? What will you have accomplished? How will others remember you? How do you want to be remembered?

Other words are frequently used to covey this idea … words such as purpose, mission, or legacy. Call it what you want, but the truth remains … this question will find you at some point on your journey. And that means you’ll have to answer it. Are you ready?


Welcome to Upshot … our brand new blog. This is the very first post and represents the latest of our ongoing efforts to regularly connect and engage with our communities on the issues that matter most to them. Questions like “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?” seem pretty significant to us. We will discuss issues like these and others that you tell us are most important to you.

We promise to keep these posts brief. No one wants or has the time to read rambling dissertations that never get to the point. We know we don’t. We also promise to listen to you. We appreciate your feedback and ideas for future posts. And lastly we promise to not make this about us … because it’s not … it’s about you! We will share information from topic experts as well as almost anyone in our community that wants to share valuable information and life-experiences that add to our conversations. That can even mean you.

Thank you for reading this far. We love hearing from you. Simply leave a comment below or visit us at our website www.WhoAreTheJonesesAnyway.com where you can also use our contact page to get a hold of us. We will always respond as soon as we can. Oh, and please share this post with your communities. We’ve made it easy for you … just click the buttons below.

We look forward to our coming conversations such as tackling answers to that vexing question, “What’s your upshot?” Discovering your answer to this question just may be the most liberating thing you have ever done.



Bob and Susan Karcher

Authors | Speakers | Coaches

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